The PhD and the Hamster

The Art of Spending an Hour in Prayer

Sometimes I imagine that God sees my time in prayer with Him like trying to discuss a doctoral thesis with a hamster.

I can be all over the place with my thoughts, struggles, and desires. So many people and issues pop into my head for prayer, I often can’t focus on one thing long enough to get anything productive done in the heavenly realms.

Well, about six months ago I attended a night of prayer at my church. Our pastor shared a simple, yet powerful tool that has helped me organize my prayer time ever since.

The goal is to spend one hour in prayer
AND BONUS
by praying through this list, you will actually cover everything we’re told to pray for in scripture.

Seriously!! Find something we’re asked to pray for, and see if you don’t find that it fits somewhere on this list.

*It’s worth noting how carefully crafted this list really is. I will assume this was done intentionally, I haven’t actually asked, but each category flows so perfectly into the next! Read on to see what I mean.

So…

  • 12 categories
  • 5 minutes each
  • 1 hour of prayer!
Prince Edward Island

Quieting Your Heart (5 minutes)

Take time to breathe deeply, fix your thoughts on Jesus, quiet your mind, settle your heart, and prepare yourself to pray.

I found this to be a HUGE game-changer for me. The truth is that my impulsive nature desperately needs a few moments to just settle into the Lord’s presence. When I approach the Throne Room, I’m encouraged to come with boldness and confidence, but I also want to do so with reverence and humility. Well if we’re being honest, this girl needs a couple secs to get there.

So without a shopping list of demands, I focus on just Jesus. When focusing on the amazing Lord and Saviour that He is, I find myself getting into a right spirit to connect with Him in prayer.

One thing have I asked of the LORD, that will I seek after: That I may dwell in the house of the LORD all the days of my life, To behold the graciousness of the LORD, and to visit early in His temple.

– Psalm 27:4

Thanksgiving (5 minutes)

List every possible thing that you can think of that you’re thankful for – big or small!

When I feel rushed in my prayer time, it is really hard to think of things I’m genuinely thankful for without feeling like I’m just going through the motions. When I’ve taken enough time to settle my heart in His presence, I end up bursting with gratitude. And in light of this current global pandemic, and so much social unrest surrounding race inequality, I have never felt more grateful to live in our little Canadian town, to have a home, a job, a healthy family, etc, etc, etc.

This season has been a huge perspective shift for me in that way. Realizing anew that every good and perfect gift comes from above makes it so easy to give credit where credit is due.

Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good. His faithful love endures forever.

– Psalm 136:1

Worship (5 minutes)

Put on some worship music, or just speak out words, but take some time to lift up the Lord

You know what makes it really easy to worship God with sincerity? Taking five minutes to rattle off things you’re thankful for first. I mean, WOW! When we take time to acknowledge that God truly is the source of every good thing, worship of that God naturally follows.

I am intentional in choosing songs that focus on God and His attributes, rather than what He’s done for me. This is because I need the regular reminder that God is good, even when my circumstances are not. God is love, even when I feel unloved and unseen. God is faithful even when I feel betrayed and alone. And He DESERVES my worship whether I feel like it or not.

Though the fig tree does not bud,
and there are no grapes on the vines,
though the olive crop fails,
and the fields produce no food,
though there are no sheep in the pen,
and no cattle in the stalls,
yet I will rejoice in the Lord,
I will be joyful in God my Savior.

– Habakkuk 3:17-18
Leamington, ON

Confession (5 minutes)

Acknowledge your sins before the Lord – sins of action, inaction, word, thought, etc. – and ask for His forgiveness and grace, and the strength to turn from them today.

If this is a touchy one for you, I’m sorry, but also, not sorry. There isn’t a soul on the planet who hasn’t done something wrong, or failed to do something right. Romans 3:10 says, “there is no one who always does what is right, not even one.” By the time I reach this category, I find it easier to recognize the sin that I need to repent of. And you know what?! God is SO much more gracious with me than I am with myself. I John 1:19 says, “if we confess our sins to God, He can always be trusted to forgive us and take our sins away.

So why WOULDN’T I take that baggage of mistakes off my chest?! I always feel so light and free and ready to face my day when I’ve given to God all my shortcomings, missteps, and failed attempts at getting it right. These are all fluffy words for “sin”, if they happen to make you feel better. But only God can make you free of them.

So I confessed my sins and told them all to You. I said, “I’ll tell the Lord each one of my sins.” Then you forgave me and took away my guilt.

– Psalm 32:5

Family and Friends (5 minutes)

Pray for anything you need for your spouse, kids, siblings, parents, circle of friends, etc.

I used to really struggle to keep track of the people I wanted to pray for. Now, I simply begin with my immediate circles and work my way out. If someone comes to mind who fits into a different category, I just save them for that category.

As a result, I don’t feel overwhelmed by long lists of people on my heart and mind. Instead, I am more invested in my loved ones, and have been so humbled and inspired by the answers to my more focused prayers.

Since the day we heard these things about you, we have continued praying for you. This is what we pray: that God will make you completely sure of what he wants by giving you all the wisdom and spiritual understanding you need.

– Colossians 1:9

Sickness (5 minutes)

Think of any you know who are ill or in physical pain, and bring them before the Lord.

Much of this approach to prayer has been an exercise in obedience for me. A discipline to pray for things that really challenge my faith. I’ll be honest, sometimes, I just find it hard to pray for healing! I am still learning to have faith that God can truly heal. Although I have seen it, and I personally know people who have been miraculously healed, I also know people who haven’t. Where chronic pain continues, where a hopeful prognosis took a turn for the worse, where a life was so tragically taken. Where prayer was ceaseless, and the Lord just did not answer the way I hoped.

But in this prayer of obedience, I am learning to bring all of that to Jesus. All my doubts, discouragement, lack of faith, fear, and desperation. God wants healing for this broken world more than I do. So I pray for healing, but I also pray for His grace, mercy, peace, and joy to fill the hearts of the people I am bringing before Him. Because it’s incredible how God can lighten the burden of hardship when the burden is carried with Him.

Let all that I am praise the Lord; may I never forget the good things He does for me. He forgives all my sins and heals all my diseases.

– Psalm 103:2-3
Ft Lauderdale, FL

Church (5 minutes)

Pray for the church’s unity, mission, finances, and leadership.

The devil loves to see the Church in conflict. And we often make it so easy for him to cause division. Being united in Christ is the foundational step in getting anywhere with the mission of the Church. And what’s the mission? Well, every church will approach it differently depending on gifting and vision. But ultimately, if we are not drawing people to know Jesus and making disciples, we’re missing it.

Praying for the Lord’s provision in the finances required to carry out the mission is vital too. As the Church, we have an opportunity to put our money where our mouth is. And I’m increasingly aware that every time I spend money, I’m casting a vote for the kind of world I want to live in. Finally, pray for the leaders! James 3:1 says that, those who teach (lead) will be judged more strictly. They set the tone for both theology and practical living. These days, I pray more intentionally for wisdom in navigating “church” during the Coronavirus, and the fight for racial equality, especially.

Now we ask you, brothers and sisters, to acknowledge those who work hard among you, who care for you in the Lord and who admonish you. Hold them in the highest regard in love because of their work. Live in peace with each other. 
And we urge you, brothers and sisters, warn those who are idle and disruptive, encourage the disheartened, help the weak, be patient with everyone. Make sure that nobody pays back wrong for wrong, but always strive to do what’s good for each other and for everyone else.
Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.

– I Thessalonians 5:12-18

Land (5 minutes)

Pray for the prosperity and protection of your city, province/state, and country, and for the leaders at each level.

This was new for me to tackle on a regular basis. I never really considered how my prayers could make a difference on such a grand scale. But James 5:16 says that, the prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective. If you confess your sins to God, and receive His forgiveness, you are in right standing with Him – righteous – and your prayers can be powerful and effective!

Has our world ever felt more broken? It feels like it’s straight up IMPLODING between a global pandemic and the culmination of centuries of racial inequality. Praying for our mayor, premier of Ontario, and Prime Minister has helped me grow in empathy and compassion for each one of them. I do not envy their burden of leadership and the hard decisions they’re forced to make affecting us all. Very simply, I pray that God would impress on their hearts to make decisions that honour Him and serve ALL people.

First, I want you to pray for all people. Ask God to help and bless them. Give thanks for them. Pray for kings. Pray for everyone who is in authority. Pray that we can live peaceful and quiet lives. And pray that we will be godly and holy. This is good, and it pleases God our Savior. He wants all people to be saved. He wants them to come to know the truth.

I Timothy 2:1-4

The Jewish People (5 minutes)

Pray for the peace of Jerusalem, and for blessing upon God’s Chosen People.

I had a hard time approaching this category at first because it just didn’t feel relevant to me in any way. However, I recently came across an excerpt in my Bible that I’ve included here. It’s referring to Psalm 122, and praying into this category completely shifted for me ever since!

In the psalmist’s day, Jerusalem was the physical place that God had set apart for Himself and in which He promised to live among His people. The name Jerusalem means “city of peace”, so it is only fitting that the psalmist asks worshippers to pray for peace to reign there.
In the Bible, Jerusalem can also refer symbolically to the salvation available in Jesus Christ’s church on earth and to His glorified church (the New Jerusalem) in heaven. In this context, to pray for “the peace of Jerusalem” is not only to pray for the literal city, it is a prayer that peace will reign within God’s visible church and His eternal rule over heaven and earth will be sure and will come soon.

Moreover, Romans 11 explains that God has not forgotten nor discarded Israel. He has a plan for His chosen people and Gentile (non-Jewish) believers get to be a part of it. We are encouraged to bless Israel. And God’s Word promises that God blesses those who do! The following verse is God’s promise to the patriarch, Abraham, regarding this very thing. This promise still holds true today.

I will bless those who bless you, and whoever curses you I will curse; and all peoples on earth will be blessed through you.

– Genesis 12:3
Leamington, ON

The Lost (5 minutes)

Pray for the unsaved in your circles, that they may know the Lord, and that you may be used of God to reach out to them; pray also for the missionaries you know, and for the global mission of the Church.

This category fills me with hope as I pray for those who don’t yet know Jesus. This is also when I pray blessing over this blog. I long to be a voice and a light pointing to Jesus and His amazing love. So I pray that God would use me through my writing. Praying intentionally for the people in my life who don’t know Jesus makes me that much more aware of how I actually LIVE my life. I also pray for the Holy Spirit to guide me and to give me wisdom and discernment in sharing God’s love with others.

Praying for the missionaries that our church supports has also become so special to me. Including them in my regular prayer time like this has never been easier. And it makes me feel that much more invested and passionate about their work throughout the world.

Here is what love is: It is not that we loved God. It is that he loved us and sent his Son to give his life to pay for our sins.

– I John 4:10

Protection (5 minutes)

Pray for protection against the devil and his demons, and for victory against his efforts in your life today.

For me, this doesn’t play out quite as “exorcist” as it may sound. But I do know Satan is real. He means me real harm, and he’s RELENTLESS in his attacks. The way this manifests for me is in my selfishness, my short temper with my children, pettiness with my husband, frustration with people I disagree with. Just me me me me ME MEEEEEE! I pray against the temptation to make everything about me. My needs, wants, demands. I ask God to help me recognize when the enemy is attacking so I can step back, surrender it to God, and not fight against whoever is threatening my false sense of “being owed everything”.

God has promised to meet all my needs in Christ Jesus. When I remember that, I find His peace, and that peace ripples out to those I interact with. Ephesians 6:12 says, “For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.

But no weapon used against you will succeed. People might bring charges against you. But you will prove that they are wrong. Those are the things I do for my servants. I make everything right for them,” announces the Lord.

– Isaiah 54:17

God’s Will (5 minutes)

Pray that God fills you with the knowledge of His will, for the strength to walk in it, and for His will to be fulfilled in your life.

With 5 minutes left in our hour of prayer, we’re left with the question: So, what’s next? What will you have me do, God? Although tangible specifics would be nice, all I really want is to be more like Jesus. So I ask God to use whatever I face each day to draw me closer to Him and for the strength to do what He calls me to do.

In fact, this blog was born out of several months of praying just that! It’s been so fulfilling, enriching, and dare I say – invigorating, for me to do something that I KNOW God has called me to. Rather than just do random stuff, and hope God blesses it later. When you’re doing what you know you were created to do, you can be filled with so much peace. I pray you will come to know God’s will for your life through this simple prayer tool as well.

For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago.

– Ephesians 2:10
New York City, NY

Final remarks: This list is not law. Here’s how you can switch it up!

  • Break it up over a few days if a one-hour timeframe isn’t realistic
  • Write out your prayers in a journal, and go back over answered prayer with a highlighter!
  • Pray through this list while exercising, or out for a walk in God’s inspiring creation
  • Use a stopwatch/timer to help you keep moving…
  • …or skip the set times altogether and go with the flow!
  • There’s no right or wrong, just a desire to show up and connect with the Lord
Here’s the list ready for a screenshot!

I’m always looking for new suggestions or approaches in prayer. Have you got any to share?
I’d love to hear your thoughts or comments. Let’s connect!

Coronavirus Confinement: One Woman’s Story

It’s been one month, almost to the day, since my world shut down. I know the timeline of Covid-19 is a little different for everyone, but that’s mine.

I have started, and re-started this post more than any other I’ve written thus far – probably over a dozen times. It’s such a HUGE topic, affecting literally the entire planet. Yet we are all experiencing and reacting to it a little differently.

I kept reflecting on what I could possibly say that would be of any value at this time. Y’all don’t need another person to tell you to stay home. And you could easily look up your favourite influencers who communicate more eloquently than I. But there’s just something about hearing someone’s personal experience that draws us in, y’know? So if you’re still reading, thank you!

Just sitting down for the 42nd snack of the day!

Here are a few things I’ve enjoyed about this forced quarantine:

  • Slow mornings with the kids – our internal clocks have shifted, so getting up later and not having to rush out the door is so nice.
  • Tea time with my boys – rooibos with honey and almond milk for them, black chai with vanilla almond creamer for me.
  • Not having to make school lunches every night – even though it feels like they eat ALL THE LIVE LONG DAY, the break from school lunches is still a win.
  • Relaxed evenings together – lots of movies, games, or just sitting nearby reading with no extracurriculars to rush off to.
Lots of bike rides through our quiet neighbourhood.
Riding by the boys’ school is quite bittersweet.

Here’s what’s been really hard for me during the quarantine:

  • Solo-parenting despite husband working from home – he is busier than EVER getting the church services streamed online. So even though he’s home, we don’t see much of him.
  • Being surrounded (bombarded) by my children AT. ALL. TIMES. – They aren’t bad kids, and they mostly get along, but being “ON” all the time takes its toll.
  • Being my boys’ new teacher – one eldest child thinks it’s a good idea to wake me up begging to start his schoolwork before I am conscious. One middle child has speed-passed into the eye rolling angsty teen years now that he’s required to identify words that begin with S.
  • Working from home – this isn’t new for me, I’ve always worked from home, but juggling that on top of everyone else being home has been a challenge.
Behind the scenes of our “studio” where worship music is recorded and the Sunday services are produced.

So what’s been getting me through?

If you read my last post, https://fromtheoverflow.home.blog/2020/04/03/writing-these-words-on-my-heart/, you know that I go to my Bible when I want to speak into someone’s life. Well, this also applies for me personally! I don’t find much value in positive self-talk. Mostly because I quickly spiral into negative self talk. I prefer to go to God’s Word to see what He has to say about me, and how He might encourage me instead.

So here are some passages that have blessed me through this time, plus a little commentary or background info thrown in, free of charge.

A Sunday drive through the county with drive-thru coffee is my personal favourite pastime.

For God will never give you the spirit of fear, but the Holy Spirit who gives you mighty power, love, and self-control.

– II Timothy 1:6

Whenever I feel overwhelmed, I’m reminded that fear and anxiety are NOT from the Lord. What He has given me, because I’ve given my life to follow Him, is a spirit of power, love, and a sound mind. He has equipped me to face hard days, sad days, overwhelming days, exasperating days, and everything in between. I don’t always get it right or do it perfectly, but this verse is a great reminder of what God has given me to help me!

Don’t be afraid, for I am with you. Don’t be discouraged, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you. I will hold you up with My victorious right hand.

– Isaiah 41:10

This verse has been a constant source of peace for me for many years now. I frequently need the reminder to not be afraid. I also need the reminder to not be discouraged. And I definitely need to be reminded of why! Because God will strengthen me, help me, and hold me up when I don’t feel like I can go on.

Don’t be afraid. Just stand still and watch the Lord rescue you today. The enemy you see today will never be seen again. The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still.

– Exodus: 14:13-14

This is one of my favourite verses. The Israelites had just escaped slavery in Egypt but find themselves stuck between a rock and a hard place: The Red Sea ahead of them, and the Egyptian army on their tail. Not surprisingly, they are in a panic. Moses tells the people not to be afraid! This looks like a hopeless situation. But they are told to simply trust in God more than what their eyes can see. STAND FIRM IN FAITH! And then watch how the Lord will fight for you. Just be still in His presence, and watch.

I sooooo need this reminder on the DAILY. To calm my heart, to be still, and then watch how the Lord will work things out when I don’t think there’s a way out. As God miraculously parted the Red Sea for the Israelites in a moment that felt hopeless, He can make a way for you and me as well.

The Lord Himself goes before you and will be with you; He will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged.

– Deuteronomy 31:8

This verse is another one my favourites! The context takes place during Moses’ final address to the nation of Israel before they embark on their journey to the Promised Land without him. When I put myself in their position, I’m certain I would be terrified to go on without Moses. He represented God to the people! If anything went well for the Israelites, it is because Moses was obedient, or Moses pleaded with the Lord for mercy on their behalf. He wasn’t just a strong leader, he was the only leader they knew! Everything about their lives was about to change: leaving the only home they had ever known, the desert. And with a new man in charge, Joshua. So much change, so much unknown.

But Moses reminds the people that the Lord is the most important CONSTANT they ever need. He goes ahead of us, and He is always with us. He will never leave or abandon us, so we don’t need to be afraid or discouraged.

Kids love a good puppet show with my parents via video chat!

25 “I tell you, do not worry. Don’t worry about your life and what you will eat or drink. And don’t worry about your body and what you will wear. Isn’t there more to life than eating? Aren’t there more important things for the body than clothes? 26 Look at the birds of the air. They don’t plant or gather crops. They don’t put away crops in storerooms. But your Father who is in heaven feeds them. Aren’t you worth much more than they are? 27 Can you add even one hour to your life by worrying?
28 “And why do you worry about clothes? See how the wild flowers grow. They don’t work or make clothing. 29 But here is what I tell you. Not even Solomon in all his royal robes was dressed like one of these flowers. 30 If that is how God dresses the wild grass, won’t He dress you even better? Your faith is so small! After all, the grass is here only today. Tomorrow it is thrown into the fire. 31 So don’t worry. Don’t say, ‘What will we eat?’ Or, ‘What will we drink?’ Or, ‘What will we wear?’ 32 People who are ungodly run after all those things. Your Father who is in heaven knows that you need them. 33 But put God’s kingdom first. Do what He wants you to do. Then all those things will also be given to you. 
34 So don’t worry about tomorrow. Tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.

– Matthew 6:25-34

This is a longer one, but with so much uncertainty surrounding this Covid-19 pandemic, and especially how it has affected personal finances, health, and basically any aspect of normal life, I don’t think it has ever resonated with me more.

It is such a timely reminder to focus on just one. day. at. a. time. To trust God with anything and everything that might give me cause to worry. And to truly believe that the Lord will provide for my needs. He has been faithful to do so before, so I KNOW I can trust Him now.

The Lord God is like the sun that gives us light. He is like a shield that keeps us safe. The Lord blesses us with favour and honour. The Lord will withhold no good thing from those who do what is right.

– Psalm 84:11b

There are so many promises throughout scripture that we can claim as followers of Jesus. This is one I especially cling to at this time. The Lord lights up my life and He is my protector. The Lord loves to give good gifts to His children and this is one of many verses that points to just that. When we follow Him and walk in His ways, we can trust that He will bless us, for our good and His glory. It may not be in the way we want, but it is always for His good purposes.

And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of His glory in Christ Jesus.

– Philippians 4:19

I think it’s worth including verses from both the Old and New Testaments that speak of God’s promise to give us good things and meet all our needs. So, this verse is similar to the one above it in that way. When we commit our lives to Jesus, God promises to meet all our needs. And THIS is why we don’t need to worry, or be afraid. We can trust that He will provide a way, even when it looks like there is no way.

14 For this reason I kneel before the Father, 15 from whom every family in heaven and on earth derives its name. 16 I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, 17 so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, 18 may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, 19 and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.
20 Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us21 to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen.

– Ephesians 3:14-21

This is one of those powerhouse passages that’s worth re-reading, or dare I say, memorizing! I don’t know where to even begin commenting on this one. But I am especially encouraged with verse 20 that states that the Lord is… able to do IMMEASURABLY more than all I ask or imagine according to his power… Honestly, I find it hard to remain in a state of despair or discouragement when reading that. That the Lord can do more than I ask or even imagine? Not just a little more, but immeasurably more? Yes please! I’ll take some of that at a time like this!

Streaming church at home!
We love staying connected to our church family in this way!

If you’re not familiar with the Bible, or unsure about exploring it, these songs are another place to start. They have filled me with so much peace in this unprecedented season.

A beautiful reminder that God’s presence goes with you, and His blessings over you and your children and their children.
The upper room in scripture is where God’s Spirit met His people.
This song is a dedication to make my whole life an upper room for God to meet me, speak to me, and lead me.
This song is an encouragement to me that even in the waiting and unknown, God is with me and I am not alone.
This song didn’t fully resonate until I, like everyone else, was forced into isolation. It speaks of how when it is finally still and quiet and silent, God can finally speak and I can finally hear Him.
These lines best sum up this song:

No one ever cared for me like Jesus
His faithful hand has held me all this way
And when I’m old and grey
And all my days are numbered on the earth
Let it be known in you alone
My joy was found

If these songs, or words of scripture are new, but have also been an encouragement to you, I’m so very glad.

If you have questions about any of them, or would like more suggestions, just HOLLAAA! (Because honestly, it was so hard to narrow down Bible verses and songs for this post… way more where that came from!)

I am very aware that this is a really hard season for so many. But I also very strongly believe that Jesus loves you and wants to give you peace through this time. He is worthy and worth it. Ask me about Him! He has never let me down. He is faithful and true.

Finally, If you’ve had someone specific in mind while reading this, I encourage you to share it with them! And please let me know if you do!

Writing These Words on my Heart

Proverbs 3:1-4
My child, do not forget my teaching.
    Keep my commands in your heart.
They will help you live for many years.
    They will bring you peace and success.
Don’t let love and truth ever leave you.
    Tie them around your neck.
    Write them on the tablet of your heart.
Then you will find favour and a good name
    in the eyes of God and people.
The face of a girl who’s hiding God’s word in her heart!

Scripture memory is so close to my heart. I find it an exciting challenge to commit more and more Bible verses to memory, and I hope this post is contagious in that way!

In a previous post https://fromtheoverflow.home.blog/2020/02/07/milestones-memorials-and-the-years-of-4/, I briefly touched on how my journey with scripture memory began in 2010 when I was at a conference. The Lord impressed on my heart the importance of memorizing His Word, and I felt convicted to take that more seriously.

While at that conference, I met a woman about 10 years older than I was at the time (coincidently, she was about the age that I am now). I discovered that she had two young children, a small ministry, AND had memorized entire books of the Bible, one of which was the book of James.

I remember reflecting on how amazing it was that I sensed God wanted me to memorize His Word, and nearly right after that, I met a woman who was doing just that!

I also remember thinking that memorizing entire books of the Bible was beyond ridiculous, and I couldn’t imagine how she pulled that off with two kids to boot! I had all of ZERO children at the time. The most I was responsible for was a monstera plant, which I’m proud to say, is still thriving.

While still at that same conference, I came across this book in their bookstore:

100 Bible Verses Everyone Should Know by Heart
by Robert J. Morgan

This simple little book was an absolute game-changer for me in forming the habit of memorizing God’s Word. It’s divided into two sections. One section discusses the importance of committing God’s Word to memory, and what God says about this practice.

The second section lists 100 Bible verses everyone should know by heart and includes a short write up on each one, highlighting its context and importance for a daily walk of faith. It also includes a tip for memorizing each verse.

I got started on my memorizing journey right on my flight home from that conference. I was so excited!

When I got home, I devoted my mornings before work to adding verses to my list of memorized scripture. It took me a few months to get through the 100 recommended verses from the book, and then I started adding some other favourites to the list.

Every morning I would run through all the verses I had memorizes as though I were reciting a script from a play. The repetition really made them stick.

I kept this up for about a year and a half, with periodic breaks. But then halted altogether when my first son was born, due to mild postpartum depression (stay tuned for a future post on that can of beans).

This excerpt so beautifully sums up the benefits of scripture memorization:

When we memorize a word, phrase, line, or verse from God’s Word, it’s like implanting a powerful radioactive speck of the very mind of God into our own finite brains. As we review it or hear it spoken again, it sinks deeper into our heads. As we learn it “by heart”, it descends into the hidden crevices and fissures of our souls. As we meditate on it, it begins sending out its quiet, therapeutic waves of influence. And, as the apostle Paul said, we are transformed by the renewing of our thoughts (see Rom. 12:2)”

– Robert J. Morgan, 100 Bible Verses Everyone Should Know by Heart

Backtracking to one little anecdote in particular:

At some point, I considered taking a break from memorizing scripture because I felt like it had lost the spark it once had. So I prayed about it and asked God to show me what I should do. On that particular day, I had memorized a verse in Galatians.

That night, I dreamt that a masked man entered my apartment with a gun…

He pointed the gun at me, and shouted at me to renounce my faith or die. The gun was so close, I could feel the cold metal pressed against my face. And all I remember next is standing before this dark, commanding figure, and calmly reciting the verse I had literally committed to memory that very day:

I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. The life I now live in the body, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.

– Galatians 2:20

When I awoke from that dream, I knew I had my answer. I don’t know what I’ll face in this life, but I want to be equipped and ready for it with the Word of God. A passion for memorizing God’s Word was renewed in me and I carried on with new resolve and zeal. It is a privilege to have access to the Word of God. It is a privilege to get to read it over and over and learn something new every time. I never want to take that for granted.

If you’re looking for a guide through scripture memorization: 10/10 would recommend!

I’m grateful for the foundation that that season of zealous memorization gave me. Because after I had children, I did not commit one more verse to memory until the fall of 2019.

I went from memorizing approximately 250 Bible verses in about 18 months, to nothing at all for about 8 years. It’s really sobering to put that in writing, and I’m trying not to regret all that time lost.

So, it was six months prior to writing this post that I was reminded of that woman I met at that conference all those years ago. Just an ordinary woman and mother, who memorized entire books of the Bible. Well, because of my obsessive, and sometimes overly ambitious personality, I decided to take on the book of James myself as she had.

I really wanted to write this post having completed memorizing the book of James.

  • 5 chapters
  • 434 verses
  • 6 months

But it didn’t work out that way. I am currently about 6 verses short of my goal.

And the truth is that it’s really really really really SUPER hard for me to press the Publish button on this post without having completed the book.

I know I’ll get there. But hopefully this vulnerability will speak louder than any arbitrary accomplishment could. Because I’m aware that my own made up deadline doesn’t actually mean anything to anyone but me.

Anyway!!! Enough about that…

Here’s why memorizing God’s Word is a good idea:

  • We are commanded to memorize scripture
    Perhaps a gentler way to put it is that we are called to memorize scripture. But either way, Moses told the Israelites to make God’s Word a regular part of their everyday lives, and we should too. Moses said it this way:

The commandments I give you today must be in your hearts. Make sure your children learn them. Talk about them when you are at home. Talk about them when you walk along the road. Speak about them when you go to bed. And speak about them when you get up. Write them down and tie them on your hands as a reminder. Also tie them on your foreheads. Write them on the doorframes of your houses. Also write them on your gates.

– Deuteronomy 6:6-9
  • Jesus set the example for us
    When Jesus was tempted in the desert after fasting for forty days, He didn’t get into a debate or squabble with the enemy. Satan tempted Him, and He responded with words from scripture that He had previously committed to memory. That’s it!
    I don’t know about you, but if God’s Word was good enough for Jesus in a challenging situation, then why wouldn’t it be good enough for me? I want to be READY when the difficulty comes! Not to fight against others, but to know the TRUTH against the lies that the enemy tries to use to bring me down. I want to be equipped from the inside out. Jesus modelled that for us and it inspires me to do the same.

If you hold to My teaching, you prove that you are My true followers. Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.

– Jesus, from the Gospel of John 8:31-32

So put on all of God’s armor. Evil days will come. But you will be able to stand up to anything. And after you have done everything you can, you will still be standing… so take the sword of the Holy Spirit. The sword is God’s word.

– Ephesians 6:13, 17
  • “But I just never know what to say…” (Hey! You’ll actually know what to say!)
    Thinking back on my growing up years, I often spoke without thinking, said things I’d later regret, or simply talked too much! In more recent years, I find myself considering more heavily what my words will be in a situation. Sometimes I don’t say anything at all for fear of saying the wrong thing. I’ve realized that I would rather speak the Words of God than my own words on a given topic. So memorized scripture has been so helpful to me when I want to encourage, challenge, bless, or comfort a friend. I trust God’s Words a zillion times more than I trust my own. So committing His Words to memory is a sure way to have the right thing to say when given the opportunity to speak into someone’s life.

All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness.

– II Timothy 3:16
Life hack: memorizing Bible verses goes exponentially better outdoors

There are many more great reasons to memorize scripture (verses, passages, or books), so if you don’t like those, feel free to Google more!

Here are some tips that have helped me commit scripture to memory:

  • LOOK FOR ACRONYMS, RHYMING WORDS, WORD ASSOCIATIONS, ETC.
    Once you’ve chosen a Bible verse to memorize, see what little tricks you can come up with to help you remember the words. Find key words that rhyme, or key words that start with the same letter, or alphabet patterns. These will all help you remember what’s next.
  • READ THE VERSE ALOUD
    Studies have shown that reading a verse out loud helps your brain retain the words more quickly and strongly because of the dual effect that speaking and hearing have on the brain.
  • [Read the verse aloud] OVER AND OVER AND OVER AND OVER…
    When you meet someone for the first time, it’s recommended that you repeat their name a few times to help you remember it. Experts suggest that it takes repeating something 30 times for it to be committed to memory. So just keep reading that verse over and over. Eventually it’ll stick!
  • START GLANCING UP WHILE READING THE VERSE AS YOU GROW FAMILIAR WITH IT
    My advice: don’t rush this part. You’ll find yourself more frustrated and impatient if you realize you didn’t know it as well as you thought you did, and you may feel like giving up.
    Get really comfortable with reading a verse out loud many times before taking your eyes of the page. And when you do, keep saying the verse over and over, glancing down when you need a prompt.
  • RECITE YOUR MEMORIZED SCRIPTURE ALOUD AND OFTEN!
    That’s it! Once you’ve memorized a verse, keep it fresh in your mind by going over it and over it and over it until you’re saying it without thinking, and then keep saying it!
Love me a good Bible flat lay!

Where do I start?

  • Choose verses that are meaningful to you
    Maybe you’ve chosen a life verse, or a verse for this year, or maybe one verse in particular helped you through a difficult time, or a friend gave you a verse that meant a lot when you really needed it.
    Whatever the context, if you have some favourites, start by memorizing those!
  • Here are some popular verses and passages I recommend:

For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.

– John 3:16

The Lord is my shepherd, I lack nothing.
    He makes me lie down in green pastures,
he leads me beside quiet waters,
    he refreshes my soul.
He guides me along the right paths
    for his name’s sake.
Even though I walk
    through the darkest valley,
I will fear no evil,
    for you are with me;
your rod and your staff,
    they comfort me.
You prepare a table before me
    in the presence of my enemies.
You anoint my head with oil;
    my cup overflows.
Surely your goodness and love will follow me
    all the days of my life,
and I will dwell in the house of the Lord
    forever.

– Psalm 23 [The Lord is My Shepherd]

24 “‘“The Lord bless you 
and keep you;
25 the Lord make his face shine on you
 and be gracious to you;
26 the Lord turn his face toward you
and give you peace.”’

– Numbers 6:24-26 [Prayer of Blessing]

Why memorize entire passages or books of the Bible?

  • It’s easier to actually learn something from what you’re memorizing because you are going over important teachings in the full context that they were written.
  • It’s easier to memorize a passage vs. a list of favourite verses because they actually flow into each other. Similar to memorizing the words of a song: the flow makes sense in your brain, and it’s easier to remember the verses that come next when they all actually go together in the first place
  • It’s a fun challenge. Like skydiving! Sort of…
  • If you want to memorize a longer passage of scripture, try it out with your favourite Psalm! The book of Psalms is essentially a collection of poems and songs, so they flow really easily in memorization.
Here’s one of my favourite memorized Psalms:

Shout for joy to the Lord, all the earth.
    Worship the Lord with gladness;
    come before him with joyful songs.
Know that the Lord is God.
    It is he who made us, and we are his;
    we are his people, the sheep of his pasture.
Enter his gates with thanksgiving
    and his courts with praise;
    give thanks to him and praise his name.
For the Lord is good and his love endures forever;
    his faithfulness continues through all generations.

– Psalm 100

Do you have any favourite verses committed to memory?
My hope and prayer, at the very least, is that this post makes you want to give it a try!

If you’ve got any tips that I’ve left out here, please share them in the comments! I’d love to hear from you.

Your Best Efforts are like a Full Diaper

It was a magical December 24th. Allow me to paint you a picture:

  • I was home alone with the kids
  • My husband was at church preparing for the Christmas Eve service
  • The boys were playing [or likely fighting] downstairs
  • I finally had some time to myself while E was napping
  • E woke up a zillion minutes too early from her nap
  • I waited awhile before going to see her because I resented the alone time I’d lost

Well hindsight is 20/20, my friends, because if I knew then what I was about to find out, I would have bolted to her room the moment I heard her angelic little voice…

E’s beautiful nursery. Just imagine it covered in poop…

I wish I could spare you the gory details but then this post would be blank. Suffice it to say that after a very unfortunate incident involving a full diaper, itchy eczema flare up, and wandering hands, E was discovered in her crib covered in her own crap. I mean literally…

  • hair
  • face
  • clothes
  • crib
  • rug
  • all the places!

We were already in a race against the clock to get to church for the Christmas Eve service. So there wasn’t exactly time to spare for a marathon crap-fest.

(If the use of the word crap is offending you, you now have a small idea of how offended my nose was during this incident)

– innocent bystander [me]

Of course with no backup support, I had to clean up the mess myself. So I bathed E for the very first time (baths are Daddy’s department) and it was the absolute WORST.

Another lovely nursery photo to distract from the issue at hand (on my hands, literally)

After we were finally done and ready to go, I still couldn’t remove the smell of poop from my hands or hers.

So I washed, and washed, and rewashed our hands, employing every soap I could find in our home. I applied essential oils, creams, lotions, ointments, anything! And none of it worked. The stench of poop was permanently etched into both of our hands.

PSA: This is NOT a plug for essential oils. Just some products that failed to mask the smell of poop.

Well we went to church anyway. And I was annoyed and exhausted and stunk like poop. I avoided people by sitting right in the front row since most people are afraid of the front row. I cried through the first few carols because the experience just drained me in every way and I felt robbed of the beautiful Christmas Eve service I look forward to all year long.

I wanted to raise my hands in worship but each time I did, the smell from my hands was closer to my nose and thus stronger and more offensive. I was so discouraged. My family looked so beautiful and put together, but if you got close to us, the poop smell was undeniable. I hated it.

….and then I heard it. Not audibly for anyone else to hear, but deep in my heart. There was a still, small voice that washed over me like a wave, saying:

even the very BEST you have to offer Me is as filthy as a full diaper. And I don’t care! I don’t care that you stink like your daughter’s poop. I KNOW how hard it was for you to get here today. I know how tired you are. I know you’re distracted by your circumstances, and that it bothers you that you can’t be at your best. And yet I love you anyway! You’re here, you want to meet with Me, and that’s all I ever want from My children. Even if you were at your very best and offering your very best, it still would not be enough. So just let it go. I just want you here, with Me…

Just one of my favourite places on the planet

In that moment, I don’t think I have ever felt so loved by Jesus. Truly. Ever! I was repulsed by myself for the inescapable stench of poop on my hands and my daughter’s beside me. I was embarrassed and humiliated and so sad that I couldn’t give Jesus the best of me on such a special day. But I realized in that moment that none of that mattered. Because it simply doesn’t matter whether we have it all together, or if our lives are in complete shambles, the Lord is just so happy that we want to be with Him, and that we make the effort to connect with Him at all.

The verse He spoke over me comes from Isaiah 64:6:

Our best efforts are grease-stained rags

– MSG

Another version puts it this way:

all our righteous acts are like filthy rags

– NIV

The humbling thought that no matter what I do, or how hard I try, or how much time I spend thinking about, or striving to be perfect, it will never be enough. AND PEOPLE, THAT’S OK!!!

It is not in our best efforts, nor through our own righteousness that the Lord is pleased. In fact, our most valiant attempts are like a diaper full of poop being smeared around.

Jesus already did everything that could possibly be done to make us acceptable to God. And when we accept this truth, and accept that we need Him, He accepts us! Even when we come to Him covered in crap. Because…

when we were still enemies of God, Jesus died for us.

– Romans 5:8

Friends, if Jesus actually died for us when we were still enemies of God, how could He be so bothered by a foul scent on our hands. It’s all the same to Him. And He loves us anyway. He loves me anyway. He loves YOU anyway. And He doesn’t just put up with our stench, holding His breath like my husband holds his whilst changing a diaper. No, He actually puts His righteousness – His goodness – OVER US.

Earlier in Isaiah, it says:

I am overwhelmed with joy in the Lord my God! For he has dressed me with the clothing of salvation and draped me in a robe of righteousness. I am like a bridegroom dressed for his wedding or a bride with her jewels.

– Isaiah 61:10

So rather than rolling His eyes or sighing dramatically, God DOES something. He takes what’s messy and crappy and broken, and replaces it with His goodness and righteousness. I am reminded of another verse that speaks on this:

I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you; I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh.

– Ezekiel 36:26

I just love the imagery in these passages. That the Lord would take the ugly and stinky that I have to offer, and cover me with His righteousness, filling my heart with His Spirit instead.

Sorry if this got preachy, but also, not sorry! A weight was lifted off my shoulders that day, and I pray the same for you as you read this.

Feel free to share your comments, thoughts, or questions below. I would really really love to hear from you!

*Disclaimer: E pooped again during the service. I hadn’t brought a diaper to change her since I wrongfully assumed she was maxed out on the crapfest. I was sorely mistaken. Lesson learnt. Cool beans.

– Finally, shoutout to the lovely family sitting behind us acting like they weren’t violently assaulted by our stench. You the real MVP.

Milestones, Memorials, and the Years of 4

I am now living through my 4th decade of life. I don’t know what it is about the 4th year of each decade, or why they’ve been significant, but they have been. And I’ll explain shortly.

But first, the inspiration behind today’s post came to me from a small but special moment in the book of Joshua from the Bible. You’ve likely heard of the battle of Jericho. The walls of the mighty city of Jericho came crumbling down miraculously, all because God’s people walked around the city. Well, before that happened,

the Israelites had to make a long trek across the Jordan River to get there. Without boats or a bridge, this was an impossible task preceding an impossible battle against Jericho. But the Lord pulled through! He stopped the water’s flow so that the entire nation of Israel could cross the Jordan River by foot, on dry land.

Once they had crossed, the Lord told Joshua to have twelve large stones stacked together, one representing each of the twelve tribes of Israel. But why? 

that all the nations on earth would know that God is powerful. Jsh 4:24

In Joshua chapter 4 (no coincidence on the chapter number!) it says that these stones were to be a memorial to the people of Israel forever. So, for no other reason than to commemorate what God had done! It continues with Joshua telling the Israelites,

“In days to come, your children after you will ask their parents, ‘What do these stones mean?’ Their parents must tell them, ‘Israel went across the Jordan River on dry ground.’ The Lord your God dried up the Jordan for you until you had gone across it… He did it so that all the nations on earth would know that He is powerful. He did it so that you would always have respect for the Lord your God.”

– Joshua 4:21-24

So this blog post, in a small way, represents four stones that I’m stacking together as a memorial. Here is the story behind each one:

Being raised in a home…

with parents who follow Jesus, it is not uncommon for the children of Jesus followers to want to follow Jesus as their parents do. So it wasn’t a surprise that at the tender age of 4,

the first Year of 4,

my parents prayed with me to accept Jesus into my life as my Saviour; the formal beginning of my faith journey. I asked God to forgive me of the wrong things I had done and would do. I accepted that Jesus died for me so I could be free and could live with Him in heaven forever. I didn’t fully understand all of it, I still don’t. But I knew I needed Jesus, and that was an important start.

Sassy little Tina at 4 years old. Owning that Etch-A-Sketch like it’s 1990, because it was.

Fast forward a few years and by junior high I was teetering between following Jesus and doing my own thing. A little too loud, and a little obnoxious, but sincerely trying to see how God actually fit into my life! At the age of 14,

the next Year of 4,

I went to the Christian summer camp that I had attended for years, but now as a staff member for the first time. I wasn’t prepared for what the Lord had planned for me that summer. On my agenda: hang out with friends and meet all the boys, if we’re being honest…

Well the Lord had other plans because there were no takers. Nada. Not one. God was after my heart and everywhere I turned I was faced with staff who were modelling Jesus to me. They were kids themselves, just a little older than me, and I really admired them.

They knew how to pray. They knew how to worship. They knew how to read their Bibles. They knew how to love on people, especially the outcasts. And even though I had been a Christian my whole life, I had never really seen that kind of Christ-like love modelled by people my own age.

It was contagious. A fire was lit inside me, and a real change in my spirit occurred. I changed from the inside out, and it showed. 

People began to notice and tell me I even looked different. It was an external indicator of real heart change. The truth is I was actually and genuinely so full of joy that it was bubbling out of me. I was so happy, I couldn’t stop smiling. I finally understood how much the Lord had done to rescue me by sending His son, and I was excited to finally start living for Him. Following that summer, I got more serious about reading my Bible and praying, which was also when I started journalling my prayers. This change in me was also the beginning of exploring my career path. I started volunteering at a youth drop in centre and my desire to pour into youth was born. After a few years of being a leader at youth group, I knew I wanted to be a high school teacher.

Tina at 14 years old. Drawing blanks on a caption here for painfully obvious reasons.

After getting married and starting my career as a high school history teacher, I had fallen into a complacency in my faith. I knew I would never deny the Lord, or walk away from Him entirely, but I got lazy. I had fallen into a routine and the spark was gone. During my second year of teaching, I was 24 years old.

The next Year of 4 was upon me. I just didn’t know it yet.

I had time off before my teaching contract was due to start so I had the freedom to take a trip! I was invited by a group of women to attend a women’s leadership conference in North Carolina. I didn’t really have a reason to go since I wasn’t actually a woman in leadership. I was helping out at youth group, I led a small Bible study, but that was it. Nothing glamorous or note-worthy. Still, I went because I felt called to go, and it was truly life-changing. I was on fire once again, and excited about my encounters with the Lord and what would come of this new change in me. During one of the last nights at the main session, I received a word from the Lord. 

With a heavy beating in my chest and my hands shaking, there were two things the Lord was asking of me. The first was to get more serious about my prayer life.

To carve out real time each day to approach the Throne of Grace with confidence (Heb. 4:16). To intercede on behalf of the people He loves. And I did. The journaling I had started 10 years prior had slowly become more of a report on life events and that changed right away. Being intentional in praying about the things that matter has spurred on my faith as I’ve seen the Lord answer, provide, and move on my behalf.

The second thing I knew the Lord wanted of me was to start memorizing scripture.

I memorized a handful of verses as a child, but besides that it just wasn’t on my radar. But the Bible says that these words are to be on our hearts. (Deut. 6:4-9) We’re commanded to memorize scripture! And for good reason! I’ll have another post about this with more detail, but suffice it to say that this has been one of the richest aspects of my faith. I couldn’t stop memorizing Bible verses after that. 

24 year old Tina. Happy as a clam because she still sleeps through the night uninterrupted by children.

Since then, we’ve moved churches, homes, and cities. So much change within each decade and being an ’86 baby, I am embarking on

my fourth Year of 4.

I already feel the Lord stirring and moving and pushing me into new territory with Him. I’m so excited for what’s to come. I won’t turn 34 for a few months yet but oh Lord, I. AM. READY. And I have a sense that this blog is part of that!

Can you relate to having significant milestones or special moments around certain dates, numbers, or ages?

Numbers are meaningful. And establishing memorials for yourself to remember the special things God has done is important too! We saw that through what God commanded Joshua and the Israelites to do thousands of years ago, and we’re encouraged to do the same today.

My prayer and hope is that in a small way, this blog can serve as a reminder to me AND to you that the Lord is still moving and saving and doing impossible things. To Him be the glory. Another Year of 4 is just beginning.

Nearly 34 year old Tina. Sometimes soaring, sometimes hanging on by a thread,
but planted in God’s faithfulness and goodness either way.

The One He Loves

Who:

Welcome to my first official blog post! My name is Tina Avila. My maiden name is Destounis, so yes, I’m a Greek Canadian girl. But more importantly, I’m a girl who Jesus loves.

You’ll likely read a lot of different things on this blog because I am a lot of different things and I have a lot of different interests. I’m a wife and a mother. I’m a daughter and a sister. I’m an employee, a colleague, a cousin, and a friend. I’m a neighbour, and an acquaintance, and a child of the King. 

But nothing matters to me more than that last one. There’s a verse in the Bible, in the book of Acts, that says: in Jesus I live and move and exist. This is so true of me. Even though I am a lot of things,

my identity first and foremost is that I am a girl who Jesus loves. 

In John’s gospel, John mentions himself several times within the story of Jesus’ life simply because he was an intricate part of it. After all, he was one of Jesus’ best friends! There are at least four different moments in his gospel where John refers to himself as:

the disciple that Jesus loved. (Jn 13:23, Jn 19:26; Jn 21:7; Jn 21:20.) 

Now, at first, this may come off as a little pretentious. Almost like he’s rubbing it in our faces, or as if it’s a status symbol. But the reality is that John didn’t think too highly of himself at all. He saw his life as having very little significance apart from the simple fact that he was loved by Jesus. And to be honest, I get that.

I sometimes wonder what my life would be if I didn’t know Jesus. If I didn’t follow Him. If He didn’t guide me and teach me and lead me as He does. And then I really don’t want to think about it. I’m just so grateful to be known and loved by Him at all.

So although I’ll share a lot on here about life and love and kids and food and Netflix and coffee, all I REALLY want to be known of me, is that I’m a girl who Jesus loves. My life just has no meaning apart from that foundational truth. 

Summer morning quiet times are the best kind of quiet times.

Why:

As I began to think more seriously about writing a blog, I had to consider why I would start one in the first place. The truth is that I sometimes feel like I’m the only person I know who doesn’t have it all together. Who doesn’t have it all figured out. Who doesn’t have all the answers.

So if you ever feel like you’re failing at life because you’re a terrible cook, you hate to clean, you’re not the best at your job, you’re a sub-par spouse, and below-average parent, you’re not alone! I feel that too!

But I’ve learned some things on this nearly 34 year old journey and I’d like to share some of that in case it might uplift, encourage, inspire, or just make you laugh. 

What:

When you visit this blog, you will most certainly find posts about my kids. I have 3 amazing muses.

  • C is my studious musician who is 7 yrs old
  • L is my superhero-inventing lego-lover who is 5 and a half
  • E is my silly and spunky ray of sunshine who’s nearly 2

I also have a husband, Xavier, who keeps me grounded and makes me so happy. He’s so good at so many things, so if anyone should consider writing a blog, it’s him. I’ll brag about him on here from time to time,

but also share a bit about our journey and what we’ve learned about marriage and the S-word (sacrifice! calm down, Peggy). 

As mentioned already, I’ll write about my faith and my journey with the Lord. I’ll include some tips on how to memorize scripture which is a huge passion of mine, and other things I’ve learned from reading my Bible throughout the years. 

Other blog post topics will include food, travel, organization, fashion, budgets, fitness, boundaries and balance. Please note, I’m no expert in any of these areas. The plan is to make you laugh, or cry, or just want try at life again. 

Who for: 

I am writing this for YOU!

But seriously, as I write this post, the reader I’m picturing is a mom as clueless and sleep deprived as I am with a smartphone in one hand and a coffee in the other. Maybe she’s reading this hiding in the bathroom on her unofficial “lunch break”? Life in the trenches looks different for everyone, but that’s often mine. So if you can relate, then this blog is for you. 

So grab a coffee (hot, cold, or let’s be honest, most likely lukewarm) and let’s visit.

Delightful dessert and lattes @ Kings Bake Shop in Kingsville, Ont.

Any questions or comments? I’d LOVE to hear them. Please let me know in the comments below!

About Me

Hello, and welcome to my blog! You may be reading this as a stranger, a lifelong friend, or someone in between. Whoever you are, W E L C O M E ! I hope you’ll visit often. Stay tuned for the first official blog post coming soon. Until then, here are some random things about me:

  • I am a former history teacher
  • A former Montrealer
  • And a former breakfast-eater

Today, I am a stay-at-home AND work-from-home married mama of 3 kids (ages 8, 6, and 3). My husband is a pastor and has been for 13 years.

We live in Leamington, Ont. Our small town is surrounded by farms and greenhouses that mostly grow tomatoes, bell peppers, and weed. 

I’ve been intermittent fasting for just over a year now and I’m reallllllly digging it. I don’t think I’ll ever eat breakfast again!

I’m a lover of…

  • iced coffee
  • hot tea
  • white wine
  • and dark chocolate

These make up my four main food groups.

My early mornings include some alone time for prayer, journalling, and reading my Bible. I’m especially passionate about memorizing scripture! I’ve most recently memorized the book of James which took about 6 months to complete.

I used to hate autumn because it gave me anxiety about long winters. My pro tip on that:

Go live somewhere where autumn exists. 

Purging, decluttering, reorganizing, and rearranging are some of my favourite things. You can check out a post about that here!

I love to read historical fiction. And my guilty pleasure is YouTube videos on the evolution of fashion trends in the last 100 years. Allure and Glamour have some fun ones I linked here.

My blog posts will feature quotes by my kids and the Bible. But I’ll likely also quote Friends or The Office and assume you’ll get it when… sometimes I’ll start a sentence, and I don’t even know where it’s going. I just hope I find it along the way. Like an improv conversation.

I’ll start a sentence, and I don’t even know where it’s going. I just hope I find it along the way. Like an improv conversation.

– Michael Scott

My favourite place to visit is New York City. I’ve been a few times and I wish someone would just pay me to live there for a bit. Maybe as an expat blogger? Pretty sure that’s a thing. 

But truly, my husband and I hope to move our family to the countryside one day. That’s the real dream. So if you’re selling a couple acres of land, holla at yo girl.

Y’all may notice that I sometimes use phrases traditional to the UK and southern US. And frankly, that’s because some sayings just fit better, and I like them, and I do what I want! My husband always makes fun of that, but I fully intend to carry on until he no longer notices. 

Finally, this blog won’t likely have a very narrow focus like oils or recycling. Instead, I hope to share my musings on motherhood, marriage, and my faith, among other interests.  

Anything you’d like to read on here? Pretty please let me know in the comments below!

First official post coming soon so stay tuned! And of course, subscribe below!